I read today in the social news about someone’s story about surviving an abusive relationship. There are no abusive relationships like there is no marriage therapy there are only abusive people and only people therapy. Why is it important to make this distinction? Because it's much harder to be a victim when do you own responsibility for staying in a relationship after the first sign of the partner acting in an abusive way. We are responsible for taking part of interaction with another who is abusive toward us. You might say “if we would get out of the relationship when someone acts towards us in an abusive way, we all would be single”. I'm not saying to get out of that relationship at the first sign but to get out of interaction that became abusive. When someone is acting in an acceptable way towards us, we are obligated to protect out dignity and address at that moment that this is unacceptable, please don't do it again. If a partner will minimize, dismiss, blames you for being too sensitive or seeing things that are not there, you can see that the person is not going to change. By not understanding what is acceptable what’s unacceptable, and not apologizing for with a promise not to do it again, a partner is showing you that is not going to change, and it will happen again. That is your cue to get out of relationship. If you're not willing to do so, you are volunteering to be a victim, and frankly there are no victims only volunteers, in so many ways.
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Love your body? Concept of loving your body, as many concepts of social and personal positioning, is ridden with ego confusion. 1. Perceiving physical body as your main identity, by far the most important, or often the only identity, that is slams the door on spiritual explorations. Stemming from materialistic view of life and Darwinian Theory of origin of humanity, which gave social power to pharmaceutical industry, the physicians, and body care industry. Perception of the physical body as the main human identity is perhaps the most dispowering and wasteful life philosophies, yet successfully sold to around the world.Even though a percentage of people who believe in a higher power ranges from 85% worldwide and 95% in North America, the lack of daily self-reflection and simply “laziness of thought” pushes people towards following untruths. And with that giving time and energy, which is life, to support, some dark, irreverent force of the Universe. The same force that creates atrocities in one part of the world, will convince you to give up power over your life to your physician. 2. Treating your body as a separate identity. Your body is not your pet, or your old car in a junkyard. Looking after your body is not a full time job, a chore that you resent, nor is a responsibility you can take it or leave it. Your body is your co-creation to access and experience life energy. It is designed for an optimal opportunity to increase your presence of the timeless you forever. Beyond time. 3. Taking care of your body as the only self-care. There are many bodies of your being and we can generally split into basic three: Causal - timeless you, Authentic identity, Subtle - energetic, field in and around you and Gross – your physical body.Looking only after your physical body will leave you inevitably disappointed. It will get sick or damaged, or age and die. Distribute your time and energy wisely in proportions Causal / Subtle / Gross to 50 / 25 / 25. Your life will become authentically fulfilling.